5 Basic Tips to Help You Write Your Wedding Vows

By Ross | 1 Entertainment on Nov 16 2021

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Wedding vows are the ultimate manifestation of the love couples have for each other. And for this reason, some people are intimidated by the idea of writing something to utter in public, in front of dozens or even hundreds of people. 

But there are a few things couples should think about when penning their love notes to each other—it’s all about being honest and true to how you feel. Here are some tips to help you write excellent wedding vows.


1. Consult With Your Partner

Although wedding vows should be secrets kept until the wedding day, couples need to communicate with each other and ensure they are on the same page. They should talk about how long the vows should be and the theme or the mood they want to create.

Of course, both parties can go all out in terms of romance, but it’s best to consult each other for clarity.


2. Make the Vow Personal and Unique

You should be able to find many templates for wedding vows online. However, you wouldn’t want to copy those vows, change a few words, and call it a day. As much as possible, you should let your personality come through and shine.

Therefore, it’s best to speak from the heart and make sure that you keep the honesty, sincerity, and love enveloped in the words you’ve written. A vow should be something that your other half will remember. Therefore, it should be the words you’d like to tell them over and over again.


3. Tell a Story

Usually, couples write vows that reveal how much they love each other. However, a vow is also about telling the story of how two people became one. You can try to add the narrative of how you two met and the challenges you faced on the way to the altar. 

Try to tell the story of how you see your partner in your eyes. People have various perspectives of themselves and others, making it enjoyable to see how two stories meet in the middle. In the end, wedding vows should tell the audience the reality of your journey to the altar.


4. Talk About the Future

After recalling the past, it’s best to also look forward to the future. Make sure to think about a narrative on how the end of your vows will go—you can invoke babies, a new home, and a pet dog to add to the family.

Couples can go all out on this segment, depending on how they envision the relationship will continue after the ceremony and reception, after all the wedding decorations have been taken down.


5. Know When to Stop

The point of writing vows is to share, not overshare. Therefore, you must be cautious about how to play things out in writing. Remember that you will be speaking in front of family and friends, and there are details about your relationship that you may not want to share with them. 



In reality, there isn’t a definitive guide on how to write wedding vows. It is an incredibly personal experience, and it all depends on the couple, their experiences, and what they are willing to share with their guests. As a general rule, it’s best to stay true to your feelings and write with love and honesty in your heart.

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